Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Careful…You Never Know Who is Reading

In a recent blog post, I mentioned I had decided to change the way I behaved and responded to negativity. Shell from Things I Can't Say said it's my blog and it's a place for me to rant, and I should feel free to do so.

True, but only to a point.

A blog, regardless if it is personal, is still on the Internet, and is open to anyone who happens to find you through a search or six degrees of separation.

You never know who is reading: the boss, your coworkers, your parents, your inlaws, your children, a perspective boss or client. Much like Facebook, what you put on your blog stays in cyberspace forever so you have to be careful what you write or it may come back to haunt you.

Other than two slips of judgment, one of which was really bad, I am careful about what I write on my blog – I don’t write about specific people and the things they do; I don’t go into details when I really want to; and I try to remember who may be reading when I am writing.

And if I am feeling angry, hurt or resentful, I pick up a pen and write it all down in my private, and offline, journal. The old-fashioned way ensures no one gets hurt and opportunities aren’t lost.


Lana said...

I have the same attitude as you do. It IS my place to vent, but I would never complain about my mother in law or my sister (both readers). In fact, I think whining online in general makes you look like.. well.. a whiner. Who wants to read negativity every day? That's what I have my husband for. LOL.

Thank you for the follow, I followed you back!

Mundanemomma said...

I agree with you there, but I don't tell many people that I have a blog, just so I can keep that anonymity. I try not to name names, or places, to ensure that as well. I am curious now though, about these comments you mention. It's kind of funny in a way, I was just writing a PM to a friend who had a problem with someone who took something the wrong way on her blog, and she was very upset about it.

Shell said...

Very true!

I have a post in my drafts that is titled "It's my blog, but..." which basically talks about how these are our blogs and we can choose what to post, but that we still shouldn't use them to try to hurt people and spill meanness out into the world.

Even though I do talk about a lot on my blog, even I have limits. :)

I'm a full-time mummy said...

Hi LisaDay!

Greetings from Malaysia again! Just want to say thank you for dropping by my blog on my SITS day. You can read the aftermath of my whole day SITting episode at this link:

Thank you again and hope to see you back here sometime! :D

Warmest Regards,
Jenny aka I'm a full-time mummy

Christina Lee said...

SO true! I have lots of family and friends reading!

Me, Myself and Pie said...

Very true. I used to complain about my job once in awhile, but then a few co-workers started reading. Plus, it scares me that everything in just out there, on the internet for anyone to find! You never know these days. Thanks for stopping by my blog! =)